You should be grateful!

Here on the island of Phuket in Thailand there are many mixed marriages between Thai and Western. We hear many stories about strange and irrational behavior of Thai women. As for the other side of the coin? Western men are always a source of reason and fairness for their Thai women?

There's something I often notice from Western husbands, which I always think, is unfair and will lead to relationship problems. E 'belief that their Thai wifeshould be grateful.

E 'away from all Western husbands are guilty of this attitude. However, it is often enough that it pays to be discussed. These men believe that their wives should be grateful to enhance the lifestyle that they gave. They believe that this means that they call the shots, and if the wife does not like, she's ungrateful.

This is really a good basis for a relationship?

When these men talk about their latest spat with your wife, it is oftenheard similar comments. "You forget where she came from. When I knew who lived in a cabin and sleep on the floor." Means they must be soft and submissive? Can not control in the report? If you do not respect your wife wants you to wait only happy because it has a nice bed?

Of course, gratitude is a factor in the relationship. Many Western men in Thailand have Thai made great sacrifices for the sake of theirWives. Their wives should be grateful for these sacrifices, but not to the extent that he is their role in the report. The Thai wife also contributes much to the report, the man should be grateful. In a healthy relationship is the gratitude of a two-way thing.

Many men in Thailand with the intention of finding a wife to come. I think many of them come with little knowledge of local culture and naive ideas about what they find. They think they are"Go to" save a Thai girl in his life of poverty and give them a better life. In return, the girls are forever grateful and will be a loving and caring woman.

Now the bad news is the majority of Thai women do not feel the need to "Save". They love their country and their family. They usually have many friends. They like the life in Thailand. Yes, many Thai women are poor, but this does not mean that they are unhappy. They do not want to change theirLife. They just want more money so they can make their lives better present.

Many Thai women are available to Western approaches by men. Thailand is one of the most open and tolerant society in Asia and have no fear of relationships of mixed race. One of the things that Thai women and Western men above is that they may have greater financial security of most Thai men. However, I am still waiting to find the other women at things from a good relationshiplike love and respect.

You do not want a one-way relationship where her husband was constantly expected of them to be grateful. Who wants such a relationship? To continue to be treated as second class without a partner will say in decision-making, because there are costs. To constantly reminded where they came from.

Marriage is give and take. Both parties must be able to compromise and to meet their partners. It 's true that some ThaiWomen are not the best for control of the western stock and if people who are providing the money, it may be better for him to control the money. This does not, the Thai wife has not entered, where the money. This does not mean that she is submissive to her husband in all matters.

Here is the reason that Thai women are not as grateful as their western men sometimes think that life should be. They are not afraid of her before. They areno fear of sleeping on the ground in a common area. You're not afraid to take a shower in a tub with cold well water. And 'this is the life they knew, not afraid to return to it. I'm not massively grateful for their new facilities because it is the most important thing for them.

There are two things that most Thai women will share the comfort of your own in front of her. First, women do most of Thailand in support of their family to a certain level. Some are happy to make a smallContribution while others may never be enough.

The second thing is clear. That 's what everyone wants from their relationship, loved and respected, to feel important. All assets of the world can not compensate, treated like a doormat. It 'the same for them as for us. They want, how they feel the feelings.

Some time ago I found myself in the role a bit 'awkward translator for a man of Swedish, Thai girls was intended to ask. These ThaiGirl was a neighbor and friend of my wife. The Swedish guy spoke no English, so he had a Swedish friend to translate for him. The Thai girl did not speak English, so I translated for them Thai.

The Swedish guy was on vacation for two weeks and looking for a Thai woman. He was very pleased with himself that he was selected a bar girl. He kept saying that he too smart to marry a bar girl, and we approached our friend - aBeautiful Thai girls. He had seen her to eat at a Thai restaurant and asked to leave. They had gone several times, but could barely communicate. It 's a very beautiful young woman. Of course he had no idea she is a lesbian.

So we all went to the restaurant. Finally, he had a translator and his wife could get to these young Thai Embassy.

"I'm getting married."

Our lesbian friend was a bit 'surprised by thisProposal. In addition to being a lesbian, she once had with him a few. However, like most Thais, they kept their cards close to chest and then read Swedish.

"She will travel to Sweden with me."

It is making a classic mistake of Western men. Many men are convinced they have the girls and a better life in their country, that she can not refuse this generous offer. So here's a general truth - Thais like to live in Thailand. The reasonMany Thais do abroad is to make money. They should not go for a better lifestyle. The lifestyle is like in Thailand. They go abroad because they are able, more money than they have at home, and often they plan to return to Thailand if you have enough money.

"They will learn to speak Swedish."

Learning a new language - just a small request. Our friend agreed humiliating this was a fair question.

"You will live in my house."

Very generous. Let theWomen living in his house.

"She will cook, clean the house and the laundry."

Yes, this guy knows what he wants. A beautiful and loving Thai girls. I wonder what could not be found to fill a Swedish woman with needs.

"If they want to send money to their family needs to find work and earn."

He has obviously done some reading about Thai women. He knows how to send money home to family. Well established only logical that hethe law and make it clear that this trend will not pay too uncomfortable. After all, they have plenty of free time between their financial and marital responsibilities.

Note the total absence of question marks in this dialogue. It 'never come this Swedish guy has proposed that a Thai woman could not say more. Sure, thank you!

Our lesbian friend was considering the proposal. What was really, if it considerscould get more money or free meals from this guy before him be released from liability. He decided against it. Swedish boy's chin on the floor when she said she did not want to move to Sweden. He could not believe that these girls would not be "saved." How could he be so stupid as to refuse such an opportunity? He said something like this and walked away.

I tell this story for women only underline the assumption that the strange man western Thai can do about it. You're not reallyautomatically be grateful, as if the people of the West is their savior. And even they should be. This is not a basis for a good relationship. A reference to a person in control of the other base will never be a good compromise. For any employment relationship, there must be give and take by both parties.